To me, it is not a have to thing to get married before having a child. Matt and I have a very strong relationship, and we will provide a loving family home for our baby married or not. Our life experiences make us view marriage as something that is not as solid as most people view it as. It has not been the right time for us to be married yet, but I would gladly say yes any day. We have told a few people about us wanting to have a baby. Every person but one said, "You are going to try to have a baby?! You guys are not married yet!" I understand why people feel it is neccessary, but in this day and age, it really is not. I understand concerns of why it is a bad idea. The couple has more of a chance of splitting up, the baby will not have a "fit" home.....I get it, I really do. But I feel like no one could possibly know what is right for your family, except you. We both feel it is the right time for a baby and that we are ready. This plays the biggest role in our lives with his family. They are Catholic, and see it as unacceptable. I understand they want what is best, but only we know. It is not like we will never get married, it will probably happen before we ever actually have a baby in our arms, but no matter what it is our choice. ( I have never dreamed of a giant wedding, something very small is more my style.) Honestly, I am one of those I don't care too much what other people think kind of people. My main concern is to be able to love and provide for our family, married or not.
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